International Women’s Day. It’s “normal”

In Mexico, we learn early that we have to be careful.

They teach us that our freedom is limited,

That the streets are dangerous,

That we must hide our bodies.

It’s normal.

In Mexico, since we’re little, they teach us to be afraid.

Girls disappear and women are raped.

In Mexico a rapist can run for governor.

11 feminicides a day.

In Mexico it’s normal.

We grow up normalizing fear.

Fear of the streets, fear of the police, fear of the government.

It’s normal.

The police rape us.

The prosecutor’s office revictimizes us.

Institutions abuse us.

The government makes us invisible.

It’s normal.

In Mexico we learn that the colour of our skin defines us,

That our bank account determines us,

That language belongs to men,

And that we must shut up.

What clothes were you wearing?

How many drinks did you have?

Why were you walking alone?

Today we will not shut up.

Today we will not stop.

Today we demand justice.

It’s not normal.

The streets are ours.

The fight goes on.

In every single house.

And in every single body.

It’s not normal.

Today we march virtually for those who are still here and those who are no longer here.

Today we fight against normalized violence.

Today in Mexico, let’s unlearn what they teach us.

Let’s claim our own language that belongs to all.

Let’s raise our voice and demand answers

For those who are still here and those who are no longer here.

Feminicide in Mexico.

It’s not normal.

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We are Alumbra, Básicos de México, Fábrica Social, Faro, Gag, Trama Studio y Transforma MyM 

We demand justice for those who are still here and those who are no longer here.

Denormalize violence in Mexico

#Desnormalicemoslaviolencia

#8M #8M2021 

#MexicoFeminicida 

#AbortoLegal 

#UnVioladorNoserágobernador 

#NiUnaMas 

#NiUnaMenos 

#FuimosTodas

This text was written by Virginie Martin-Onraët, who produced the video with her friends and associates from different Mexican organizations. Editing: Cecilia González Barragán. Production: Cecilia González Barragán, Paola González Rubio and Virginie Martin-Onraët.

Yesterday in Mexico City, the police gassed the protesters during the march for Women’s Day. Today, the government says “Gasses? No. never.”

The featured image I found on the Internet. “Ni una menos” means “Not one (woman) less” and refers to the constant violence against women in the country.

Let’s keep on fighting.

148 thoughts on “International Women’s Day. It’s “normal”

  1. Terrifying, but needs to be said.
    I know I am lucky to be born in Canada, where women’s rights, although not perfect, exist.
    Thank you for this.
    BTW, there is no Featured Image, that I can see.

      • Yes, she is. That text and video are very strong. (You can see her around 48or 49seconds, and the one before last I think).
        She has developed quite an expertise in recent years on gender-related issue. Works for NGO’s as a consultant across Latin America.

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      • I understand. Though I’ve always been like that. Education I guess. (And I always assume, wrongly perhaps, that many men feel and act the same) (Point in fact, in my company I probably hired 60-70% women. They were better. And there was no salary difference. I was actually tempted to pay men less! 🤣

      • That’s a great education. My guy is like that, too. I think when you are raised around women, your thinking is automatically different. And hey…. great that your company hired more women 😉 We get it done!

      • Thanks for sharing. Et oui, Toujours pogné avec notre couvre-feu – juste à Montréal et les rives sud et nord – tellement tannant. Mais. Whatever. Life goes on and we deal!

      • Pogné? Je connais la pogne. Vieil argot. Je connaissait aussi “tanné”. Il y a une chanson de Beau dommage, chais plus laquelle: “Chuis tanné…”
        Et ouais, on fait ce qu’on “pneu” comme disait Michelin… 😉

      • Haha! J’te fais pratiquer ton québécois 😉 Beau Dommage… Blues d’la métropole, peut-être? https://youtu.be/tat2V97FYqE?t=7
        Mais qu’est-ce qu’un gars peut faire
        Quand y a pu l’goût de boire sa bière
        Quand y est tanné de jouer à mère
        Avec la fille de son voisin?
        😉

      • J’ai trouvé. J’ai 2 LP’s. Oú est passée la noce. Chanson “Amène pas ta gang”: ‘Chus tannée d’me faire accroire”. Et les paroles dont je me rappelais sont: “chus tanné d’entendre le bruit des vagues”, dans “tous les palmiers, tous les bananiers”, album de ’74, où ils sont tous debout sur la couverture avec un fonds de briques et sépia. Deux très bons albums.

      • J’imagine. Ils étaient très populaires en France quand j’étais étudiant. Mais chez toi ça doit maintenant être un monument national. 😉

      • Zut de flûte! Oui, elle est bonne. J’adore Paul Piché aussi – quand il n’est pas trop politique! Harmonium, etc… (Suis une vieille de c’t’époque là!)

      • Belle chanson. Merci. Celui-là je l’ai “loupé” à l’époque. Et le vouvoiement? C’t’une blague. (Ma tante vousvoyait ses enfants. Et elle engueulait en leur disant “vous”. Elle était d’un snob!)
        Bye

      • En effet. Je l’ai eu dans la tête il y a deux semaines et next thing I know, j’étais en mode québécois – mes gars ne comprennent rien. Je me souviens d’une chum très anglophone qui a sorti avec un québécois. On était chez lui lors de la fête de la St-Jean et elle me regardais, toute abasourdie lorsque je criais pour du Plume Latraverse, du Offenbach, etc. “Who are you?” LOL…
        Et je le sais que tu blaguais.
        Ciao!

      • Le fait est que pour nous Français, quand les Québecois s’y mettent, on a un peu de mal à comprendre. Le rythme. Le vocabulaire. “Accroire”pour nous c’est du “vieux Français” qu’on peut lire dans Racine ou Molière. Et les mots comme “ma blonde”, “Mon chum” (pis moué) 😉 Personnellement j’adore. Il faut que j’aille à Québec un jour… 🙏🏻

      • Ouais… je n’ai pas encore eu l’expérience de “dealer” avec des français en France. Mais j’ai eu “ouie-dire” que ce n’est pas toujours évident. Ma blonde et mon chum (au lieu de ma copine, mon copin, mon amoureux, etc.) pis moé pis toé (disons que je n’utilise pas souvent ce moé et toé). En tout cas, mon Brieuc… si tu viens à Montréal, tu me fais signe!! Je suis une guide par excellence 😉

      • Les Français sont très, très mauvais avec les langues. Chum, c’est de l’anglais. Et il ya beaucoup d’emprunts. Plus de vieilles expressions que les Français ne connaissent plus.
        Guide? bBnco. Avec plaisir. Bon week-end.

  3. Government officials lie? Surely not….ha!
    The way I see it these days, no government anywhere can be trusted.

    • I know, I know. I was raised in… a few dictatorships in the South. And I had the illusion that in some places, Europe for instance, some peace had been achieved… Well, I have rot revise my opinion. Having said that, many organizations, worldwide, are taking action. That is good.

  4. Le texte est effrayant… mais le monde actuel est effrayant… Ce matin c’est encore un sentiment de gueule de bois en écoutant les nouvelles…
    (Pour info, tu as mis un lien qu’on ne peut pas ouvrir. La vidéo?)

    Cheers to staying alive!
    Stay safe my friend.

  5. Heartfelt…it happens here too Brian…Montreal Massacre…MMIWG…and behind closed doors…Alberta has a history of violence towards women…I’ve worked on these issues…we can do better! 😩 I’m so jaded 🤓 thanks for sharing this Brian ~ hugs hedy 🤗

  6. This is utterly moving. The scenes from the Protests against violence towards women on Mexican streets are shocking, the kettling of protesters by police and use of tear gas. I see the strapline of 130% rise in femicide 2015-20. Also today in the news, 1 in 3 (35%) of women worldwide have experienced violence, mainly from a (male) partner. Thank you for getting behind the fight. Such a long way to go.

    • It is a long way to go. To me it is even worse, going to College in the 70’s, I thought this was behind us. It ain’t. Sadly.
      Question? could see the video? There was sthg wrong with the link.

      • I am too young to know the mood in the 1970s, but I sense that whilst there was a long road ahead, there was optimism. Fifty years later and still facing many of the same challenges, it is harder to have that optimistic view.
        I watched footage through another media, there is footage on YouTube, for example.

      • The 70’s were a continuation of the 60’s. The 60’s had seen Independence from the Colonial powers. There was the Civil Rights Act. Blacks were free, finally, in America. The flower movement broke down many old rules and rigidities. In 67-68, my father was a pain in the… So, that’s why there was so much hope. Then came the 80’s, with Michael Douglas and Wall St, and it all went down the drain. 🤣

      • Having said that, I believe we are now in a black swan. (See Taleb) It can be a tremendous opportunity to change a lot of things… Fingers crossed. 🤞

      • There was a low starting base, but history indicates at least in the west, that women’s issues made leaps and bounds forwards. Since then, it feels like one step forward and two back. We had an example here in UK over the weekend. It’s often the small day-to-day things, the ‘being mildly patronised’ continually at work, for instance – doesn’t sound a big deal, but it is cumulative.

      • “Mildly patronized”. Grrr. I guess i might grab a – figurative – gun… There are serious steps back in every area. Women. Democracy. The rule of Law. Just about everybody seems to have forgotten Montesquieu, and I think it was your Locke?

      • John Locke advocated equal rights for all within a governed society. Not sure what extended to women in that credo. Evidently, he did say ‘Motherhood becomes not an obstacle to equality.’ Enlightened for the 17th century, I guess.

      • Indeed. Montaigne, a tad earlier, put women and chidren in the same basket, so to speak. My mother could not get a private bank account without her husband’s consent in France until the late 70’s if I recall.
        Not sure it was Locke I was thinking about. lemme go back to my (Lord) Russell.

      • I thought it mught be Hume, but, no, It was Locke who put forward the “checks and balances” doctrine. Which Montesquieu developed in “L’esprit des lois”. Strangely enough Russel has a chapter on Locke, one on Hume and another on Rousseau, and none on Montesquieu or Voltaire. (I’m definitely more a Voltaire man myself.) 😉
        (Love our chats. Hopefully, one day we can a have beer or two to support those reflexions)
        Be good Libre.

  7. Gini has always been a fighter for the good. Evil has ruled for too long in this world, it’s time to take it down for good.

    Apart from the occasional imbecil, here by us women have always been treated with respect, at least in public. Too bad we are all indiscriminately treated as criminals by default now, by our own government(s), because of the NWO.

    There is no image in the article, and the link to the G evil asks people to create an account before they can access the contents. You probably see the video because your device keeps cookies and sees you permanently logged in to the G account, but those of us who don’t have (and don’t want) such account can’t reach it. Maybe try Dropbox and/or Vimeo, at least as alternatives.

      • Yep, video is accesible now, got it.
        Apart from the fact that I only got money to survive for about another month tops everything’s fine here. Well, and the fact that it really started snowing only after a week into March while the so-called winter was more like a late Autumn combined with sudden Spring bursts. No es normal… but then again what is normal anymore in this world lately…?
        Cuídate, amigo! 😉

      • No es normal, efectivamente. Nothing is. I guess it’s what our grandparents felt when they sensed the world change radically before their eyes. In June 1940, my grandfather, who’d fought in WWI, wrapped his German Mauser rifle (war “trophy”) in greased rags and buried it at the back of his garden. Just in case. (My brother still has it)
        Take good care of yourself too…
        (And thanks for checking the video)

      • Too bad the american second amendmend is not valid out here.

        Personally I wouldn’t mind at all about the world changing, even radically, if it were for the best. I mean for each and every living being – be it human or not – on this Earth. There would be straight signs of that, people would understand and approve of it. But as it is now, we only see terror from out own governments, laws to bring us into submission as if we were stupid rabid animals that need to be muzzled – and that ain’t fuckin’ right! Mucho mas no es normal en el mundo ahora!

      • LOL. It must be something like that. Or since everything now is computerized, they had to reboot the wheel, and it’s not starting yet. Stay safe.

      • I’m always safe, mon ami, even if I never wear the muzzle. And I care more about you – all my friends across the world – than about myself. It has always been my credo: I can’t be happy until all the people dear to me are happy.

        Please send my regards to Gini and tell her to be extremely careful as the bad guys don’t like to be poked at.

      • You’re a kind man.
        And I agree with you. Gini and her friends and brave, but, I’m not sure I like so much exposure. Well. Someone has to do something, right?

      • Dunno…Changing the mentality, the traditions, the nature of an entire people is a huge task. Choosing the right angle – including the right allies – is critical, if that is ever to happen.

      • Allies must be in higher places where they have certain leverage over their peers. But I’m afraid that may just be a nice dream. I suspect those in higher places have already received copies of the Master Plan and agree with it, therefore trying to change their minds now may be an exercise in futility.

        As for us at the lowest step of the pyramid, we have no chance whatsoever without the help of the law enforcement people, which seem to forget they are very little above us and do have families amongst us. I’m afraid the advice given by Étienne de La Boétie in his The Politics of Obedience: the Discourse of Voluntary Servitude (English version here:
        https://cdn.mises.org/Politics%20of%20Obedience.pdf , see around page 47) doesn’t quite apply anymore, more so when people forgot how to think for themselves and have been completely devoided of the most basic human rights, all over the world.

      • I know about Stanley Milgram’s experiment and it’s a very good example of how ordinary people would behave in such environment. Enough to prove that self-reasoning does not happen in most ordinary people. As an aside, it’s at least strange that I can’t find any kind of copy of the movie starring William Shatner based on this experiment.

        Adjacent to that is the Stanford prison experiment that further proves the deep dark side of the human being.

      • Captain kirk played in a recreation of Milgram’s experiment? Wow? I saw the original footage taken by Milgram. Our human relations teacher in grad school showed it to us. Amazing.
        (And yes, the Stanford prison experiment. I can testify to that. I spent a week- nights- in a military prison. 7 days “arrêts de rigueur” bestowed on me by my stupid captain. The minute they turned the key on my cell door, I became a nobody. Though the guys manning the regiment jail were from the same regiment and knew. I was a prisoner. Until the next morning. very interesting. Should do a post one day.
        Cheers.

      • Yep, maybe you should. The police that beat the crap out of us for not wearing the muzzle or whatever other stupid reason are our neighbors, our cousins or whatever. Stanford all the way.

        Cpt. Kirk did star in such movie: The tenth level (1976), IMDb ID 0075320, but you won’t find it anywhere. Trust me, I’ve been hunting for it for a long long time.

  8. So this is what I missed out on while watching the video? Beautifully written by your daughter. It resonates deeply because growing up I did have somewhat similar circumstances and voices around me.

    Also, I have returned. 🙂

    • Welcome back! Yes, this is what you missed out. Plus the fact that I had pasted the wrong link on the post. It was really a spur of the moment thing that we decided Monday night. barely time to put the post together.
      Similar circumstances? Hmmm. Well, I hope it was too… harsh. I sometimes read sad stories about India. I would venture to say that young women there face an enormous challenge. You were a journalist in Delhi, weren’t you?
      Dhanyavaad for visiting, ma’amji. Phir milenge.
      🙏🏻

      • I realised that as soon as I gave it a read. I am glad you shared it. Indeed similar. It was harsh and Delhi was particularly bad. I have had terrifying experiences, and even now thinking about them gets me all het up. :-/

      • I can imagine Delhi. Terrifying experiences in this day and age should be a thing of the past. ( I remember “The ministry of utmost happiness”. And what’s worse, I think is that even old Europe is getting violent again. I nearly got mugged in Paris 2 years ago. Now it seems many people are carrying a knife… In Paris!
        Well. Stay safe.

      • Agreed. Paris over Mexico too. But I was shocked about that inicident. Mid day in Le Marais. Didn’t see it coming. managed some evasive manoeuvers, and got out of it, but it was strange. I then had a drink at the nearest café. Told the waitress. Young woman in her 20’s. She told me: “happens all the time. I only work days. No way I’m gonna work nights, it gets worse.”

      • I imagine. Though as a child of the fifties, the sheer madness and horror or WWII just fresh in the memories I thought we would remember forever. But we don’t. And everybody is ready to go at each other’s throats. Sad really. meantime stay safe. Phitrmilenge ma’amji.

      • It is a dismal thought, isn’t it? But at some point, we have to disconnect from the madness and take care of our own mental health. While we should be aware and do whatever is within our reach to further certain causes, the cares of the world cannot be ours.

        Sending cheerful vibes, Brianji.

  9. Heartbreaking, yet beautiful post, my friend. Tragically, this is the case in many countries, not just Mexico. The more things change, the more they stay the same. Thank you for sharing both the video and the heartbreaking words … we must do better … WE MUST! Sigh.

      • I don’t know either, Brian, but it seems that these things … women’s rights, civil rights, voting rights … are all like a pendulum, the further it swings to one side, the further it will ultimately swing to the other until finally coming to rest at some mid-point.

      • Possibly. I still remember vividly the 70’s, how we would all be – finally – free. And Freedom remains one of my most important values in Life.
        A pendulum or a wheel as Indians believe. The great wheel of Dharma.
        How have you been? All well I hope?

      • Sigh. Yes, I well remember the 60s when we thought we were overcoming racism, then the 70s when we thought we had moved past ‘male dominance’, but today it feels as if both of those things have slid backwards. I don’t understand it … not one bit!

        I’ve been okay … stressed, sleepless, exhausted, depressed, but hanging in. All is well otherwise and now that the weather is warmer, the crocuses are blooming, my heart is lifting just a bit! And you, my friend? Is all okay in your corner of the world?

  10. That was very powerful.
    Creo que es el mismo por mujeres de ‘First Nations’ en los Estados Unidos. Our Indians.

    (I don’t know how to switch my keyboard to Spanish.)

    • No sabía que hablabas Español. 👍🏻
      This was a very powerful text and presentation by Daughter #2. She’s a development consultant specializing in gender issues.
      keyboard. If y0u have a Mac I think it’s in system preferences.

  11. Everywhere, here there have been mass protests over rape culture, violence and child abuse. I note in the UK there have been vigils, it appears that governments are refusing to act on anything but window dressing in regard to women’s health and needs. But media barons, drug cartels, corrupt politicians, they’re doing very well.

  12. Very moving, Brian. A terrible problem. Violence against women exists everywhere, but sadly, a significant issue in Mexico. Thank you for supporting the movement to recognize women who are victims and to stop violence in the future.

  13. I’m coming late to this post Brian, and to this powerful narrative. I watched in disbelief as that fool Obrador put up barriers around the presidential palace and then defended his ‘record’ on women, and in horror as the 8th March march descended into violence and chaos. I worked on sexual and reproductive rights some years ago, including with many brave and tenacious feminist activists in Latin America. The cause doesn’t seem to have gotten any easier over those intervening years, but the sickening levels of violence against women, the denial of rights and opportunities, makes it critical to continue the struggle for justice. All power to daughter #2.

    • He’s a fool indeed. And a dangerous one. There is another issue right now on an “alleged” rapist candidate to Governor. (Mentioned in the video actually). The electoral tirbunal is blocked by the candidate’s troops.
      So you worked in that area? I always thought you’d get along with my daughter. She’s doing work with Mali now. (You need a gender expert? Trilingual? She’s the one!) Sadly the situation in Latin America is not good, though there are a lot of people working in the right direction.
      Cheers

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